14 June 2008 - 17:49Save a Relationship - Bids for Affection:
Bids for Affection: Couples respond to bids. Here’s an example: I’m reading the paper and commenting on an article about Russia and you say “Please pass the butter.” It’s not about Russia, we’re having breakfast and I want to connect with you. When you say ‘pass the butter’ my heart breaks. If I touch your shoulder and you ignore me and keep walking I’m not going to do it again. Those are bids – no less articulate for being unspoken. If I say I need you to respond to my bids and remind you that I can’t give bids to anyone else and if you still aren’t responding I feel empty. You can’t give and give and get nothing back. That’s a prescription for dissatisfaction, loneliness and heartbreak.
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