Endnotes
ATTENTION
This app is effective when anger is below 5 on a scale of l to 10.
If a conflict suddenly turns ugly, if you feel overwhelmed, and connection with your partner is rapidly unraveling.
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If a reptilian state of mind is driving you or your partner to fight, flee or freeze and the intensity of anger, on a scale of 1 to 10, is above 5, the anger is too intense to begin the exercises in this app.
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Use the signal you and your partner previously agreed upon and say, “I need to leave the room for awhile.”
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Leave the room.
Accept your angry thoughts, feelings, and urges.
Allow time for your anger to dissipate.
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You are not your thought.
You still have a chance to create positive change in this fight.
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When a conflict suddenly turns ugly and you feel overwhelmed, when connection with your partner is rapidly unraveling, when a reptilian state of mind is driving you or your partner to fight, flee or freeze and the intensity of anger, on a scale of 1 to 10, is approaching 5, the anger is too intense to follow the exercises in this app.
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Use the signal you and your partner previously agreed upon and say, “I need to leave the room for awhile.”
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Accept your angry thoughts, feelings and urges.
You are not your angry thoughts, feelings and urges. They are the neurons in your brain firing off.
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Allow time for your anger to dissipate.
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Go back to your partner and start Step 2 of this app.
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Enjoy a relationship where conflicts bring you closer and lead to a vital life well lived.
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If you would like a marriage counselor experienced in using these tools to step you through this process,
call 888-241-1720 or go to
www.acenterformarriagecounseling.com
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