Philadelphia Area Couples Counseling Alliance

separated couples diagnosed with cancer during their separation have the lowest life expectancy.

Arlene Foreman — Wed, 02 Sep 2009 15:43:09 +0000

The New York Times has reported that separated couples diagnosed with cancer during their separation have the lowest life expectancy. Couples therapy to save a marriage or even couples therapy to enable an amicable structured separation could have a significant positive impact on healing cancer.

Good Research On Schizophrenia, Gluten, and Low-carbohydrate, Ketogenic Diets

Arlene Foreman — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 15:44:20 +0000

This article is a testament to the power of diet.

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Abstract

We report the unexpected resolution of longstanding schizophrenic symptoms after starting a low-carbohydrate, ketogenic diet. After a review of the literature, possible reasons for this include the metabolic consequences from the elimination of gluten from the diet, and the modulation of the disease of schizophrenia at the cellular level.

Book Review: His Needs Her Needs

Arlene Foreman — Wed, 25 Jun 2008 18:59:13 +0000

Marriage works only when each spouse takes the time to consider the other’s needs and strives to meet them. In His Needs, Her Needs, Willard Harley identifies the ten most vital needs of men and women and shows husbands and wives how to satisfy those needs in their spouses. He provides guidance for becoming irresistible to your spouse and for loving more creatively and sensitively, thereby eliminating the problems that often lead to extramarital affairs. The revised anniversary edition of His Needs, Her Needs is a celebration of how the book has helped thousands of couples revitalize their marriages during the last fifteen years. This best-seller identifies the causes of marital difficulties and instructs couples on how to prevent them, guiding them to build a relationship that sustains romance and increases intimacy. With today’s soaring divorce rate and prevalence of affairs, Harley’s insights are needed more than ever before. An unabridged recording of His Needs, Her Needs, the 15th anniversary edition, is now available as an audio book.

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Book Review: The Sex-Starved Marriage

Arlene Foreman — Wed, 25 Jun 2008 18:57:42 +0000

From Publishers Weekly
Author (The Divorce Remedy), therapist and Oprah regular Davis offers a frank and reassuring guide for couples struggling with the “desire doldrums.” It’s been estimated that one-third of couples face issues of low desire, the impact of which is felt beyond the bedroom: “Unsatisfying sexual relationships,” Davis writes, “are the all-too-frequent causes of alienation, infidelity and divorce.” Unfortunately, libidos are rarely equal; most marriages have a low-desire spouse and a high-desire spouse. Davis offers advice for both, bolstered by numerous examples of how that advice has worked for couples she’s encountered during her two decades as a marriage counselor. Court your partner the way he or she wants to be courted, Davis tells high-desire spouses; for low-desire spouses, sometimes the best idea is (to borrow a line from Nike) to “just do it.” Her “field-tested” tips are sensible rather than earth-shattering-talk openly, be kind, commit to making a change for the better and set concrete, attainable goals-but in the hard-to-talk-about realm of sex, very welcome indeed.
Copyright 2002 Reed Business Information, Inc

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Book Review: Money Harmony

Arlene Foreman — Wed, 25 Jun 2008 18:54:56 +0000

From Publishers Weekly
After discussing money “types” (hoarders, bingers, spenders, monks) and current cultural realities, psychotherapist Mellan offers a particularly balanced study of the often-hostile male-female relationships in private money matters. Reassuringly objective, she sees hope for improvement “if men and women will begin to understand each other’s ‘culture’ and not take the differences between them so personally.” Mellan pinpoints frequently divergent views on investments, philanthropy, banking arrangements and intra-couple communication which must be mutually approached, she stresses, “with curiosity and compassion” and eventually “depolarized” to a middle ground through “love letters,” structured “moneytalk” and negotiation. Case histories are offered to illustrate the process. First serial to Brides and Your New Home magazine; Fortune Book Club and QPB selections; author tour.

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Book Review: Love Marriage & Money

Arlene Foreman — Wed, 25 Jun 2008 18:53:18 +0000

This acclaimed book is a one-stop guide to everything you need to know about your finances before, during and after a commitment. Powerful, yet fun to read, this is the first book to blend psychological, legal and financial information into the essential resource for anyone managing money and a relationship. The perfect wedding or engagement gift!

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Book Review: First Comes Love Then Comes Money

Arlene Foreman — Wed, 25 Jun 2008 18:51:40 +0000

From Roger Gibson’s first (now) humorous story of spending decisions in the early days of his marriage to Kari, he explores several aspects of the money pitfalls in marriage, including debt management, investing, priciples of being an effective manager, discovering your money personality, and balancing the differing spending habits of spouses. A good nuts and bolts book for learning to avoid crippling confrontations.

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Book Reveiw: Why Men never remember and Women never forget

Arlene Foreman — Wed, 25 Jun 2008 18:48:52 +0000

From Scientific American
A four-year-old could tell you that men and women are not the same, but even adults struggle to explain why. That is where Why Men Never Remember and Women Never Forget steps in. Citing a plethora of recent research, Marianne J. Legato sets out to describe why men and women vary so widely in their reactions and thoughts. In so doing, she hopes that readers will grasp the science of our biochemically controlled brains and, in light of it, seek to limit discord between men and women in the home and workplace. A tool kit to fix the male-female communication conundrum is an admirable goal, but one that Legato does not quite achieve. Although the science behind our divergent brains provides mini-epiphanies, the focus of the book gets lost in its mix of memoir, guidance and concrete science. The information to help the sexes get along better shows up occasionally, as in a brief reference to a mother who employs what she now knows about the male brain to fi ght less with her teenage son. Still, there are a lot of diversions along the way. One distraction is the decidedly female vantage point taken. Legato, a champion of rectifying medicine’s lapse in female-focused research, is a doctor who founded Columbia University’s Partnership for Gender-Specific Medicine, where the word “gender” might as well be “female.” For a book trying to bridge knowledge gaps, Legato represents the male world in strikingly few instances. The skewed view may arise from trying to force the theme of “the sexes are from different planets.” Legato might have better served the reader by explaining how sex-based brain revelations can affect our lives—how doctors could provide better health care when it is geared toward each sex, how teacher could optimize student learning by tailoring their approaches, and, yes, why women in the bedroom need not be offended if their male partners do not necessarily want to cuddle. Despite missing the opportunity to explore the future relevance of gender brain science, the book does offer a fair amount of enlightening information. Although Legato does not provide that much guidance for how to use our new awareness, a thinking person can start to figure it out. And whether you are male or female, isn’t that what our brains are for?

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Book Review: The Verbally Abusive Relationship and Other Books About Verbal Abuse

Arlene Foreman — Wed, 25 Jun 2008 18:28:08 +0000

The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to Recognize it and How to Respond

by Patricia Evans (Author)

Are you now, or have you ever been, in relationships with family, friends, or mates who have been verbally abusive? Is your happiness with someone you love continually threatened by interactions that continually undermine your self-esteem? Do you feel trapped in a relationship that keeps decaying in a downward spiral of overt or passive-aggressive abuse? If so, this book could be your life raft, either carrying you toward repair of the existing relationship or the effects of past relationships or offering liberation from your current confusion. Its practical approach can help clear your head and possibly change your life. The only criticism that I and other readers have is that the author assumes verbal abuse is almost always directed by males toward females, which, in my experience and that of others I know, is not necessarily the case. Highly Recommended.

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Verbal Abuse Survivors Speak Out; On relationship and recovery (Paperback)

by Patricia Evans (Author) “Deep within the human psyche, evolved over millions of years, are the eternally true, ever-present needs, drives, and desires that propel us through life’s experiences…”

Oprah Winfrey
This is a new day in America; the most important thing is to realize that you don’t deserve to be treated that way.”

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Book Review By Arlene: The Highly Sensitive Person in Love by Elaine N. Aron, Ph.D.

Arlene Foreman — Sun, 22 Jun 2008 01:41:37 +0000

Does your partner say you are too sensitive? I highly recommend this book. Below is a description of the book by the author. To purchase this book at amazon.com click here.

Most of us assume that the success of a relationship between friends or lovers depends on having good communication skills or sharing similar interests. But consider this: A 1995 study found that 50 percent of the risk of divorce is genetically determined. Does this mean success and fulfillment in social life are inherited? What can we do about that?

The single largest reason for this genetic effect is not a “divorce gene,” I’m certain. (To say something is genetically determined doesn’t clarify much–wearing skirts or owning a rifle is almost totally “genetically determined,” thanks to the genes for gender plus a lot of cultural moderators.) Genetics enter into marriage because of the way that certain inherited temperaments cause trouble in relationships. They cause trouble only because most of us are totally ignorant about the reality of the drastic differences that can exist among nervous systems. But with the right guidance, the many “mismatches” in this world can have the most fulfilling relationships of all.