Step Seven: Practice Compassion Daily

To apply these new skills before an argument escalates, your brain must generate new neural pathways.

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Practice, Practice, Practice

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Set aside a time each day for at least three weeks to practice compassion for yourself and then for your partner.

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Imagine yourself experiencing the intense feelings, thoughts and bodily sensations you had during a recent conflict.

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Imagine using your newly acquired tools to defuse your intense painful emotions.

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Remember a time when the two of you felt close and important to each other.

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With practice, compassion in the midst of conflict allows you to stay connected to your partner.

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